Life Management Institute (LMI)
Take Your Relationship To a New Place
Getting away from the norm can be a healthy thing for a long relationship. Long relationships tend to create habits and routines that are hard to break for both partners. It is important to stay spontaneous in your relationship and this is not a new concept but a very true one. You can easily fall into routines such as getting up, going to work, coming home, eating, watching TV and then going to bed.
Try to spice it up a little and make different plans every few days and a couple of weekends a month. Remember, though, it is difficult to make these changes every single day, so try to space them out. Shaking things up too much can be as big of a problem as sticking with a routine. There are lots of ways to break those routines. It doesn't matter if it is for a week, weekend, or just the day, as some time away from the norm can be very therapeutic. A nice option is to find a place where the romance can ignite, as you have some alone time with your partner. Unfortunately, until it happens to them, many people do not think that living with an individual can make them lonelier than they've ever been in their lives. Studies indicate, though, that thousands in a committed relationship feel alone.
Not many people in relationships spend a lot of time with their partner, and they tend to take them for granted. Sometimes there are days when the couple does not even talk about anything that has real meaning. This can be negative on both sides, and by exerting some effort to pay more attention to your partner it can bring about a healthier relationship.
1. Getting away from those old routines can help get the two of you where you need to be.
2. Listening, Talking, Then Speaking
If a conversation is brought up, and an argument happens, you should try to think why the argument came about.
Sometimes you can provoke the argument, and you are not aware you are doing so. For example, constantly criticizing your partner or dwelling on small details in a negative way is a way of provoking confrontation and not knowing it. Maybe you always harp on her clothes. Alternately, perhaps you incessantly complain that he's late when he comes home.
It doesn't matter what it is, if you discover this is happening, you should try to listen carefully when you speak. You should try to look into the future what will happen if you happen to say this or do that.
You are the person who knows your partner better than anyone else; therefore use this to your advantage. Understand what triggers the arguments, and you may be able to solve them before they start.
3. Making Time for One Another There's no simple way around it, our lives are busy places. That time spent elsewhere, though, means time you're choosing not to focus on your relationship, and that can cause some real problems.
Set aside time just to spend with your partner. After being in the relationship for a long period of time, this can be the only way get control of the spiraling problems you may be experiencing. Try to set aside some time where you can have a good conversation or go for a walk. Setting aside some time to enjoy your time together can help make a healthier relationship.4) Making Time For Yourself Spending too much time with someone for too long can be overwhelming. You may discover that taking a solo trip refreshes you, as well as your partner. You may find that you will miss your partner and it may take some time alone to realize this.
Focusing on yourself for a bit may, in turn, help you to focus on your relationship. For example, while you're on your own, you may discover that your partner often speaks for you. Understanding the root cause of this problem may help you communicate the issues to your partner more effectively. If you and your partner are having relationship problems you should try to look at the problem and sit down with them to have a heart to heart alone talk with no interruptions.
If this still does not work and you are still having relationship problems then counseling may be a good option. The relationship is an investment in time and emotion. Because of this, you should take advantage of the time you spend together and, in a constructive way, come to terms with why the problems are occurring.